Then he turned toward the woman and said to Simon, "Do you see this woman? I came into your house. You did not give me any water for my feet, but she wet my feet with her tears and wiped them with her hair. You did not give me a kiss, but this woman, from the time I entered, has not stopped kissing my feet. You did not put oil on my head, but she has poured perfume on my feet. Therefore, I tell you, her many sins have been forgiven-for she loved much. But he who has been forgiven little loves little." Luke 7:44-47 NIV

"It’s selfish to have my needs met"

What do I need?


What do I want?


1.  Self-centeredness is at the core of our sinfulness.  (Isaiah 14:13,14) (Romans 1:25)
2.  Love is the highest commandment. (Matthew 22:37-40)
3.  We should be humble and obedient as Christ was. (Philippians 2:7,8)

So… God first, others second, self last? True or is this a belief that can drive you crazy? (Circle one.)

1.  Our needs reveal our incompleteness.

a.  We are relational beings. And by using the Principle of Analogy we know that ______ is a relational being as well.
b.  So then… why doesn’t God need us? _____________________________________________
c.  Did He create us with the ability to function autonomously? Yes or no.
d.  Was Jesus fully human, in the flesh? Yes or no. Was He not then in need of human relationships, as we are? If not, then______________________________________________
e.  Jesus sometimes prayed alone. (Luke 5:16; Mark 1:35) To whom did He pray? ___________
f.  Did Jesus ever ask for support and/or help from His disciples? Yes or no?
g.  Do you think Jesus enjoyed being physically close to His disciple (John 21:20) or did the God-man do this solely for John’s benefit?

2.  Our needs are logical.

                a. Key Point:  _________________________________________________________________

_____________________________________________________________________________________

3.  Our needs drive us to growth (Luke 18:10-14) and humility.  If we don’t humble ourselves to growth,

______________________________________________________. (Proverbs 3:34; 29:23, Obadiah 1:3,4)

4.  Our needs are designed to draw us closer to God. (Matthew 9:12,13)


1.  Neglecting our needs leads to spiritual and emotional problems. (Matthew 7:17,18)



2.     Getting our needs met helps us meet the needs of others. ( 2 Corinthians 9:6,7 ;see also 1 John 4:19)




Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart. Psalms 37:4

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